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Follow our tips on how to cope with the daily challenges of living with incontinence.
Enjoy good sex
How to look after your skin
What to take on holiday
How to manage incontinence at work
Fight depression with talking therapy
Worries about embarrassing leaks during sex can mean you avoid intimate contact. This puts strain on relationships and damages your self-esteem and self-confidence.
There's no reason why anyone with bladder or bowel weakness can't enjoy intimate relationships.
If you empty your bladder and bowel and don't drink too much fluid before having sex, any leak probably won't be serious. Sex involves all sorts of bodily fluids, so a small leak probably won't even be noticed.
It can give you peace of mind to protect the bed. Bed pads, which absorb moisture and have a stay-dry cover, may be the most comfortable choice.
Constant dampness can make your skin irritated, but you can avoid this by following a simple routine.
Wash using a cotton cloth or disposable wipes (flannels and sponges can be too harsh). Use products that cleanse without drying. These are available as non-aerosol sprays, foams and disposable wipes.
Don't use soap as it makes the skin dry. And check that disposable wipes are alcohol-free to avoid skin irritation.
After cleansing, always moisturise and use a non-greasy barrier cream. This forms a protective layer to block out unwanted moisture.
Incontinence shouldn’t stop you going on holiday or staying with friends. The key is to plan ahead.
Take enough of all the products you use with you. Include a small bag containing your clean-up kit. This could contain a change of clothes, pads, handwash, wet wipes and plastic bags.
If you intend to do your own laundry, find out where you can wash and dry items in private, if necessary. A portable washing line and pegs can be useful.
If you're flying, pre-book an aisle seat near the toilet and wear loose-fitting clothes, as they're more comfortable and make changing easier.
Finally, pack a deodorising spray, which will remove odours, rather than just masking them.
A study by the charity Bladder and Bowel UK (formerly PromoCon), which provides information and advice about incontinence products and services, found that coping with incontinence symptoms at work is a big source of anxiety for people with bladder and bowel problems, especially men.
Some people who told their colleagues or employer about their continence problems reported a negative response, while others found their boss supportive and understanding.
Contact your doctor for advice on whether, and how, to tell your employer about your continence difficulties. Your doctor can also suggest incontinence products that can help at work.
Incontinence can affect you mentally as well as physically. The negative effect on your self-esteem, dignity and independence can lead to isolation, distress and depression.
According to continence nurses, up to 70% of people with incontinence are affected by depressive illnesses.
It helps to talk to people you trust, so tell your friends and family how you're feeling.
Or ask your doctor to refer you for counselling or other talking therapy .
For more tips, read 10 ways to stop the leaks.
Important: Our website provides useful information but is not a substitute for medical advice. You should always seek the advice of your doctor when making decisions about your health.